The journal

'Submissive' and 'dominant' tell you which way power flows. An archetype tells you why someone enjoys it, which is far more useful when two people are...

Sensualist dominance lives in preparation: the room, the pace and the anticipation, long before anything happens between two people.

It's natural to start by comparing crosses. Start with the room instead: the space around the frame, the light, the wall and the way in.

Discreet packaging, a neutral name on your statement, and a few choices of your own.

Keep bleach and harsh chemicals off the finish. A frame can still be kept properly clean.

A sensation dominant leads like a good mountain guide: the route is chosen together, the conditions are watched throughout, and turning back is always an option.

Consistency is kinder than severity. The disciplinarian leads through standards both partners chose, and responses that stay calm every time.

For the caregiver dominant, the part of the evening that matters most can begin when the scene ends.

The architect leads by building a framework their partner can rest inside, and the most important parts of any structure they build are the ways out...

For this style, desire sits at the centre. Here's how desire is negotiated, presented and protected, and why being in the mood never extends an agreement.

Some people submit by being known. This style is built on openness, closeness and trust, and on the care that keeps all three healthy.

Chosen and agreed, intense sensation is how a masochist submissive feels most present with a partner they trust, which is why the agreements around it go...